Ups, Downs, and Confusion

Someone I know once recited this proverb to me: “Man plans and God laughs.”

By no means am I a religious person (spiritual, yes, religious, no) but this is such a pertinent statement. Take into account that your parents, teachers, and other relatives can prepare you all you want, tell you in order to get to C, you must complete A and B. Go to school, get a job, get married, have kids, etc. However, for many of us, things work out contrary to this and even backwards. Sometimes we discover along the way our desires change–maybe we don’t want to have kids, or get married (to the opposite sex or even at all), maybe we have kids before we get married. Whatever it is, there’s no one right way to do things regardless of the expectations thrusted upon us by family and guardians.

The best thing to do is to listen to your gut instinct and do what feels the best and right. Don’t worry so much about the end result, sure keep it in mind, but don’t become so obsessed that you miss out on other opportunities that might appeal to you. See the positives in every single experience you have and take reasonable risks when you have a good feeling about it. Every interaction will teach you something about yourself and the world, even if it just teaches you what you don’t want. Don’t resent it. Let it go but then reach for what you do want.

Working in commercial real estate has taught me that I enjoy working like a team with others while still having some independence. It’s taught me that I can do a job that is bearable and still have time to enjoy my passions like writing, learning, and teaching fitness. It’s taught me patience and to remind myself that this job isn’t the be all end all, I have my whole life to have more extraordinary experiences and take only education and joy from my work. And it’s taught me that good coworkers can be utterly invaluable.

What have your jobs taught you?


never stop learning

I’ve always found it difficult to learn through online education. It can be so boring. Even when the topics are interesting, the lack of visual, audio, and kinetic interaction really dulls down the content. For instance, I took a healing fiction course in university, and despite being enamoured with the course description about alternative therapies, the fact that I was not able to participate in any verbal discussion with my peers and teacher really drained me. Needless to say, I didn’t do so great in the course. A forum cannot compare to the inside of a lecture hall in my opinion.

My point is, when you want to learn something, know what kind of learning type you are. Many people I’ve met are visual learners. Some are audio-visual learners. Some are read-write learners. Some are kinetic learners. Some are a combination of any of these, although one is usually more predominantly one than another. Whatever you are, use it to your advantage and get the best out of your education.

That’s the next tip. Never stop learning.

Let me repeat that.

Never. Stop. Learning.

Just because I work in real estate as an administrative assistant and acting as a delivery girl/tragically underpaid accountant/data entry specialist (if there is such a thing), doesn’t mean I’m not actively networking, taking courses, and reading everything I can about the publishing and editing industry. Right now it’s proofreading. Next semester, I suspect it will be indexing, or maybe substantive editing.

The blogger for This Crazy Industry wrote in herĀ Becoming an Editor entry back in 2005, that there is no one way to become an editor. The same thing has been said by some of my instructors. Editing, writing, and publishing is a calling. You either do it or you don’t. That is, there’s no “I kind of want to do this”; for someone truly passionate about this work, it’s a calling. I feel this my calling. The problem I face is that I might have more than one calling. I’m extraordinarily passionate about writing, editing, fitness, and nutrition. Now I have to try and fit that all into my life somehow. Here’s to learning and getting it all done!

What are your thoughts on learning? How do you best learn and are you a school person or do you prefer to learn through life experience and self-teaching?

Audio? Visual? Kinesthetic? Read-write?

Audio? Visual? Kinetic? Read-write?