Someone I know once recited this proverb to me: “Man plans and God laughs.”
By no means am I a religious person (spiritual, yes, religious, no) but this is such a pertinent statement. Take into account that your parents, teachers, and other relatives can prepare you all you want, tell you in order to get to C, you must complete A and B. Go to school, get a job, get married, have kids, etc. However, for many of us, things work out contrary to this and even backwards. Sometimes we discover along the way our desires change–maybe we don’t want to have kids, or get married (to the opposite sex or even at all), maybe we have kids before we get married. Whatever it is, there’s no one right way to do things regardless of the expectations thrusted upon us by family and guardians.
The best thing to do is to listen to your gut instinct and do what feels the best and right. Don’t worry so much about the end result, sure keep it in mind, but don’t become so obsessed that you miss out on other opportunities that might appeal to you. See the positives in every single experience you have and take reasonable risks when you have a good feeling about it. Every interaction will teach you something about yourself and the world, even if it just teaches you what you don’t want. Don’t resent it. Let it go but then reach for what you do want.
Working in commercial real estate has taught me that I enjoy working like a team with others while still having some independence. It’s taught me that I can do a job that is bearable and still have time to enjoy my passions like writing, learning, and teaching fitness. It’s taught me patience and to remind myself that this job isn’t the be all end all, I have my whole life to have more extraordinary experiences and take only education and joy from my work. And it’s taught me that good coworkers can be utterly invaluable.
What have your jobs taught you?